KT's Life Coaching
KT is certified in Love, Sex and Relationships from Loveology University, was trained and worked as a Case Manager for TN DCS, and have been a life coach for over a decade.
She helps clients with self-confidence, dating, relationships, grief, life goals, career planning, intimacy, body language, tragedy, building up from rock bottom, socializing, and more.
She has been a panelist and ran workshops at conventions including Balticon, Lunacon, Philcon, Arisia, Confluence, Ravencon, Wicked Faire, Exxxotica, ECGF, Icon, and Genericon.
KT also worked for years at the adult store NiteCap Megastore in Staten Island as an event planner, workshop coordinator, and educator.
Coaching vs. Therapy
Services
Here are some of the services that KT provides. If there's something you don't see listed, contact KT for more information.
Coaching Session
Date-for-Hire
KT holds 1-to-1 Coaching sessions made specifically to get your life back on track.
Sessions can be done in person or via video chat and are at the most 90 minutes long, including time for Q&A. Contact KT for more information.
Have an event coming up and you don't want to go by yourself? Hire KT to accompany you so you don't have to go it alone! Family events, reunions, weddings, holidays... Contact KT for more information.
Lifestyle Coach
KT's Free Advice
Different from a Life Coach, KT helps people with questions or concerns about relationships, intimacy, kinks, orientation, dating, socializing, toys, etc. in either one-on-one, couples or group sessions.
This can be done in person, on the phone, or video-chat and are between 15-45 minutes long. Contact KT for more information.
Write a message to KT for advice or guidance and she will respond, a la Dear Abby.
KT was the Dehlilah behind the Dearest Dehlilah column in The Arrow newspaper at St. John's University, as well as for the Staten Island Register in 90s and early 2000s, and a brief run on Live Journal in the early 2000s.
Now she'll post the letters she receives on social media, so don't use your real name!
Contact KT with your messages and she'll answer as many as she can!
Shopping Trip
Do you need help picking out the proper outfit for a special occasion, the right gift for a birthday or anniversary, or are just uncomfortable going into a store by yourself? You can ask KT to help you out, either as your personal shopper or shopping companion! Contact KT for more information.
KT's YouTube
See KT's YT Page about various lifestyles and straight up commentary in her new series "Just Sayin'".
Reviews
I suffer from PTSD, and KT is one of the few people that can talk me down when things get bad, even when it's long distance.
KT provides tough love, which is needed more than people realize.
- Mike G
Alaska
I was living with a guy who had a lot of issues and was making me miserable. KT helped me take the plunge and move out on my own.
Couldn't have done it without her guidance and help!
- Casie Z
New York
I used to love reading Dearest Dehlilah in the Staten Island Register. She didn't sugar coat her advice and sometimes straight out told the advisee that they were in the wrong.
I enjoyed those columns the most.
- Diana D
New York
This has been a very tough year for me, and KT has been a big help as I go through loss and trauma while trying to keep my life moving forward.
She's straight-forward and honest and provides great advice and help, and she's also just a great person to vent to.
I feel better after talking to ber.
- Lisa M
New York
I had lost a lot of weight, and none of my clothes or costumes were fitting me correctly. I knew KT was going to be at the same convention as me, so I hired her to be my fashion consultant and help me pick out outfits that looked good on me.
She helped me realize I was dealing with body dysmorphia, and made me try on outfits I never thought would be able to wear. I looked amazing and felt like a goddess all weekend because of her help.
- Renee C
Massachusetts
KT is great at helping me get comfortable in the D/s Lifestyle. I feel very comfortable with her, and know I can tell her anything and she won't judge me. Having her as a guide allows me to have safe and smart fun.
- Dave D
Tennessee
I know this is going to sound crazy, but I needed someone to accompany me to a funeral. In my family, funerals are just as painful as weddings and reuinions.
I hired KT to come with me. I told my parents that she and I were friends, and let everyone think whatever they wanted.
But I didn't have to answer all those annoying questions that would be inappropriate even if we weren't at a funeral.
KT was also a pleasure to hang out with and was personable and polite and made me feel very comfortable in an awkward situation.
I have a wedding coming up soon; I plan on hiring KT again!
- Nicolo D
New Jersey